Wednesday, December 9, 2009

RubyRubyRuby Ruby!

Mrs. Downing's faithful readers know by now that she was in a five-car pileup on her way to work a couple weeks ago, and that as of yesterday, her dear Elantra hatchback, Ruby, was totaled.

I know firsthand what it's like to lose a beloved vehicle, and I know I'd be a pouty boy if Sportacus was ever totaled.  But it's hard to give comfort during the transition.  I have to remember that there's no quick fix, and you have to let the grieving own their grief. 

The reminder actually came to me as I was surfing for cars on the laptop last night.  Hyundai doesn't make an Elantra hatchback anymore, and Mrs. D. doesn't want a used car to replace Ruby.  So in poking around through equivalent cars, I brought up some Hondas and Kias, but the look on her face said, "nice try, but just let me be sad right now."  I didn't want to seem like I was trying to influence her decision in any way (only window shopping for my own edification), so I put the laptop away and let her be sad.

Sometimes it's okay to let your loved one be sad.  Sometimes it's okay just to be quiet and hold them.


Lucy Leadskin said...

I think it's Quality Kitty Snuggle Time with the missus.

kylestevensmusic said...

Oh man! Im glad she's ok. Yikes...managed to not see that update. BTW, loving the new look. Fresh start = fresh start!